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Lithuania | Tolys Laurinaitis ([personal profile] cautious_knight) wrote2010-05-05 04:36 pm
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video; backdated to shortly after Meriken's "let's find America a date" post.

Are there really no simple social rules in the future that people do still follow?

[identity profile] watchful-knight.livejournal.com 2010-05-05 03:56 pm (UTC)(link)
She called me "stiff".

...What rules are there?

[identity profile] 2ndhandlion.livejournal.com 2010-05-05 04:01 pm (UTC)(link)
Most people still get married; usually to someone of close to the same age, but that doesn't matter so much as long as they're both adults.
Adultery is still a bad thing.

[identity profile] watchful-knight.livejournal.com 2010-05-05 05:22 pm (UTC)(link)
So... you still court someone with the prospect of marrying them?

[identity profile] 2ndhandlion.livejournal.com 2010-05-05 09:32 pm (UTC)(link)
It's called 'dating' anymore. And it is similar, but it's between the two people, generally the parents aren't involved.

[identity profile] watchful-knight.livejournal.com 2010-05-06 06:00 am (UTC)(link)
But they will be involved when it comes to the financial safety of the young couple.

[identity profile] 2ndhandlion.livejournal.com 2010-05-06 06:22 am (UTC)(link)
Perhaps, but kids don't ask permission anymore.

[identity profile] watchful-knight.livejournal.com 2010-05-06 06:45 am (UTC)(link)
Parents have gotten that unimportant?

[What happened to the forth commandment ;;]

[identity profile] 2ndhandlion.livejournal.com 2010-05-06 06:48 am (UTC)(link)
It's not that they're unimportant, but they aren't the one's getting married. Usually, he sign that dating has become serious, is when the prospective man is brought to meet the girl's parents.

[identity profile] watchful-knight.livejournal.com 2010-05-06 06:56 am (UTC)(link)
[Imagines dating to be "meet to wander over the field and have a nice conversation", btw. Kissing clearly isn't involved before one is engaged.]

And the other way round?

[identity profile] 2ndhandlion.livejournal.com 2010-05-06 07:11 am (UTC)(link)
The boy's parents might become involved, but I guess people are just more protective of their daughters.

[identity profile] watchful-knight.livejournal.com 2010-05-06 07:24 am (UTC)(link)
They usually are the ones who give their child away, after all.

[identity profile] 2ndhandlion.livejournal.com 2010-05-06 07:34 am (UTC)(link)
I think it's more tradition. Women can lead their own lives.

[identity profile] watchful-knight.livejournal.com 2010-05-06 07:46 am (UTC)(link)
...What do you mean by that?

[identity profile] 2ndhandlion.livejournal.com 2010-05-06 07:49 am (UTC)(link)
women can't be given away, because there father's can't really won them, even if they think they do.

[identity profile] watchful-knight.livejournal.com 2010-05-06 07:52 am (UTC)(link)
They would still marry into the husband's family.

[identity profile] 2ndhandlion.livejournal.com 2010-05-06 07:55 am (UTC)(link)
It's really just a name. Titles, as such, don't have meaning anymore in most of the world.

[Says the guy who married a princess... but he beat the crap out of her betrothed and they eloped so it's different...]

[identity profile] watchful-knight.livejournal.com 2010-05-06 08:05 am (UTC)(link)
Does family have any meaning there?

[identity profile] 2ndhandlion.livejournal.com 2010-05-06 03:48 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes. It's just not a power structure. It's who you care about and rely on, and who you have responsibilities for.

[identity profile] watchful-knight.livejournal.com 2010-05-06 06:42 pm (UTC)(link)
But-

It's hard to grasp the concept of that, but it doesn't sound that bad.

[identity profile] watchful-knight.livejournal.com 2010-05-07 10:17 am (UTC)(link)
A lot of safety and security gets lost by that, though.

[identity profile] 2ndhandlion.livejournal.com 2010-05-08 03:40 am (UTC)(link)
It depends. I always looked after my brother, because I'm older and I needed to be responsible for him.

But if my wife had obeyed her father, she would have been the 12th wife of a man she despised.

[identity profile] watchful-knight.livejournal.com 2010-05-08 11:06 am (UTC)(link)
Why would he have married her to him?

[Marriages are often due to politics or ensuring a girl's economic safety...]

[identity profile] 2ndhandlion.livejournal.com 2010-05-08 07:30 pm (UTC)(link)
Because he was wealthy and powerful, and her father feared him.

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