video; backdated to shortly after Meriken's "let's find America a date" post.

[cautious_knight]

Are there really no simple social rules in the future that people do still follow?

Comments

[watchful-knight.livejournal.com]

Parents have gotten that unimportant?

[What happened to the forth commandment ;;]

[2ndhandlion.livejournal.com]

It's not that they're unimportant, but they aren't the one's getting married. Usually, he sign that dating has become serious, is when the prospective man is brought to meet the girl's parents.

[watchful-knight.livejournal.com]

[Imagines dating to be "meet to wander over the field and have a nice conversation", btw. Kissing clearly isn't involved before one is engaged.]

And the other way round?

[2ndhandlion.livejournal.com]

The boy's parents might become involved, but I guess people are just more protective of their daughters.

[watchful-knight.livejournal.com]

They usually are the ones who give their child away, after all.

[2ndhandlion.livejournal.com]

I think it's more tradition. Women can lead their own lives.

[watchful-knight.livejournal.com]

...What do you mean by that?

[2ndhandlion.livejournal.com]

women can't be given away, because there father's can't really won them, even if they think they do.

[watchful-knight.livejournal.com]

They would still marry into the husband's family.

[2ndhandlion.livejournal.com]

It's really just a name. Titles, as such, don't have meaning anymore in most of the world.

[Says the guy who married a princess... but he beat the crap out of her betrothed and they eloped so it's different...]

[watchful-knight.livejournal.com]

Does family have any meaning there?

[2ndhandlion.livejournal.com]

Yes. It's just not a power structure. It's who you care about and rely on, and who you have responsibilities for.

[watchful-knight.livejournal.com]

But-

It's hard to grasp the concept of that, but it doesn't sound that bad.

[2ndhandlion.livejournal.com]

It isn't really.

[watchful-knight.livejournal.com]

A lot of safety and security gets lost by that, though.

[2ndhandlion.livejournal.com]

It depends. I always looked after my brother, because I'm older and I needed to be responsible for him.

But if my wife had obeyed her father, she would have been the 12th wife of a man she despised.

[watchful-knight.livejournal.com]

Why would he have married her to him?

[Marriages are often due to politics or ensuring a girl's economic safety...]

[2ndhandlion.livejournal.com]

Because he was wealthy and powerful, and her father feared him.

[watchful-knight.livejournal.com]

And he wanted to marry her?

[2ndhandlion.livejournal.com]

Because she was beautiful, and a princess.

[watchful-knight.livejournal.com]

But her father can't have been a strong king.

[2ndhandlion.livejournal.com]

No, he wasn't. he was wealthy, but he was loosing his power because he was weak.